Advice for partners
Help and support for partners facing up to porn addiction in their relationship.
For wives and girlfriends, the discovery of his secret habit can be an emotional nightmare. Rejection, anger, confusion – do they really know this man at all? They question their own attractiveness and body image, blaming themselves for somehow causing this problem.
Above all, partners feel alone. Husbands put up walls of defensiveness and denial. Social stigma about pornography makes it such a difficult problem to seek help for.
For many, this can be an ongoing, painful struggle. For the sake of children or finances, we often feel compelled to keep up the façade of a healthy relationship. All the time, intimacy and connection is eroded by his compulsive behaviour.
Wives and girlfriends are completely entitled to their own recovery, just as husbands and boyfriends who fall into the porn addiction trap become desperate for help. It’s a delicate balance for partners, knowing when to offer support and when to draw the line.
Porn Game Over is a recovery guide for those who seek real change. It helps addicts become accountable for their own behaviour, and makes essential reading for partners. There is an extensive chapter especially for partners, providing support and insight into the real reasons behind his behaviours.
Throughout his book, Jason delivers both reassurance and practical plain speaking. He offers a key starting point for building recovery together – gradually converting a horrible, emotional mess into a united, positive opportunity for change.
Porn Game Over is an interesting book for a number of reasons. Because it is written by an ex-addict, Porn Game Over reads as very credible for the man struggling with porn and eye-opening to their partner trying to understand the affliction. It allows you to see that a porn addict isn’t inherently a pervert or a bad person. Rather an addict is someone overusing porn to escape from everyday stresses: jobs, relationships, finances, boredom.
Porn Game Over is written with a positive, engaging and non-secular viewpoint. Most importantly it gives manageable steps and clear direction how to begin the path to recovery. Many of the steps in Porn Game Over are echoed in the PAH site: filters or accountability software, boundary setting, open communication and most importantly love, empathy and continued support during the recovery process.
Will your addict be responsive to these steps when guided by an ex-addict? PAH predicts they will. PAH highly recommends the Porn Game Over recovery guide.